While you probably don’t need us to state the obvious for you, we will. No one wants to send a condolence message or write a sympathy card. It sucks. Someone that you care about lost someone ...

I share in your grief and send you all my love in this time of sadness. Our deepest sympathy to you and your family. Hoping that the support of loved ones brings you comfort during this sad time.

Dear Miss Manners: Last summer, I attended a barbecue with my husband ... But as you are careful about expressing condolences, Miss Manners assumes that your husband already sent such a letter.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Last summer, I attended a barbecue with my husband ... But as you are careful about expressing condolences, Miss Manners assumes that your husband already sent such a letter.